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Wedding Anniversary
Monday, June 8, 2009
Today is our 18th Wedding Anniversary. And the nth time we spent our anniversary miles apart. I can’t even remember the last time we were with each other celebrating momentous occasion like this.
It could have been more meaningful if we are on each others arms telling her how much I love her. This time I would just content myself reminiscing how we found each other by reading our daughter’s essay she submitted in her class when they were asked to write about how their parents met.
MY PARENTS
By: Jae*********
My parents first met when they were in 2nd Grade. But neither one of them knew each other; they only found out that they were classmates then when they were already dating. My father transferred to other school in Kalinga-Apayao when he reach 3rd Grade, my mother continue to finished primary school at the school they first met.
When they reached high school my father came back to La Union and once again they were classmates from 1st year, but then again, they haven’t noticed each other. As my father relates, that time my mother was a “dark”, boyish and had a childish manner. On the other hand, my mother relates that he already noticed my father as an intelligent boy, “payatot” and nothing special.
My father continues that he began to notice my mother and started having special feeling towards her when they were in the 2nd year. Young as he was, he does not have the courage to express his feelings to her. And he sorted to expressing his feeling through letters to her. He asked his friend to give his anonymous letters to her hoping that she will write back. One letter, two, three, four letters had gone and no replies. When suddenly, he received a reply, he was so happy.
And then he continues to write, little did he knew, that his friend that he was sending his letter through have also a special feelings to my mother. My father did not know, that before his friend hands the letter to her, he reads it first, with his other friends. That started the teasing to both of them from the whole campus. The embarrassment and the teasing made them distant from each other. As long as there is a way to avoid each other, they will, just to avoid the teasing.
Years had past and this had been their way. Although, my mother confides that she already had a special feelings to him but she kept it inside. Until they graduated in high school, they never talked. They parted their ways without goodbyes. He studied in Baguio, she studied in Manila. Although, they are miles apart, they confide that they are thinking each other despite the fact that they don’t have any understanding, just a special feelings that they kept inside.
When he learned that she came back to La Union, he started sending her flowers. He would ask my aunt, his younger sister, to bring his flowers from Baguio to La Union every weekend as he was not able to do so because of his studies. But first, my aunt will give the flowers to a common friend of my parents. Then the common friend will give the flowers to my mother.
The funny thing was that the whole town thought that my aunt was courting this common friend and the common friend was courting my mother.
And so, before things get complicated, he summoned all his courage to talk to her. Then he did talk to her. It took him sometime before she said yes, that was December 26, 1990. My parents have proven to themselves the saying that “when you love somebody, set them free, if they return, (hindi ko na alam ang katuloy)..
But that was not the happy ending just yet, but just the beginning of longer struggles. They married early and this had been their resentment to this day. Have they waited for awhile, their life would have been easier than today.
But then, true love, understanding and respect have been their tools in resolving and overcoming their struggles in life. Communication has been helpful for them to continuously win small battles in life, one step at a time to win the challenges in life.
Today, they shared us their story for us to learn from mistakes that they may have made. For us not to repeat the mistakes they were into. They serve as our guide, to clear our path so that ours may not as bumpy as they had.
The end
It could have been more meaningful if we are on each others arms telling her how much I love her. This time I would just content myself reminiscing how we found each other by reading our daughter’s essay she submitted in her class when they were asked to write about how their parents met.
MY PARENTS
By: Jae*********
My parents first met when they were in 2nd Grade. But neither one of them knew each other; they only found out that they were classmates then when they were already dating. My father transferred to other school in Kalinga-Apayao when he reach 3rd Grade, my mother continue to finished primary school at the school they first met.
When they reached high school my father came back to La Union and once again they were classmates from 1st year, but then again, they haven’t noticed each other. As my father relates, that time my mother was a “dark”, boyish and had a childish manner. On the other hand, my mother relates that he already noticed my father as an intelligent boy, “payatot” and nothing special.
My father continues that he began to notice my mother and started having special feeling towards her when they were in the 2nd year. Young as he was, he does not have the courage to express his feelings to her. And he sorted to expressing his feeling through letters to her. He asked his friend to give his anonymous letters to her hoping that she will write back. One letter, two, three, four letters had gone and no replies. When suddenly, he received a reply, he was so happy.
And then he continues to write, little did he knew, that his friend that he was sending his letter through have also a special feelings to my mother. My father did not know, that before his friend hands the letter to her, he reads it first, with his other friends. That started the teasing to both of them from the whole campus. The embarrassment and the teasing made them distant from each other. As long as there is a way to avoid each other, they will, just to avoid the teasing.
Years had past and this had been their way. Although, my mother confides that she already had a special feelings to him but she kept it inside. Until they graduated in high school, they never talked. They parted their ways without goodbyes. He studied in Baguio, she studied in Manila. Although, they are miles apart, they confide that they are thinking each other despite the fact that they don’t have any understanding, just a special feelings that they kept inside.
When he learned that she came back to La Union, he started sending her flowers. He would ask my aunt, his younger sister, to bring his flowers from Baguio to La Union every weekend as he was not able to do so because of his studies. But first, my aunt will give the flowers to a common friend of my parents. Then the common friend will give the flowers to my mother.
The funny thing was that the whole town thought that my aunt was courting this common friend and the common friend was courting my mother.
And so, before things get complicated, he summoned all his courage to talk to her. Then he did talk to her. It took him sometime before she said yes, that was December 26, 1990. My parents have proven to themselves the saying that “when you love somebody, set them free, if they return, (hindi ko na alam ang katuloy)..
But that was not the happy ending just yet, but just the beginning of longer struggles. They married early and this had been their resentment to this day. Have they waited for awhile, their life would have been easier than today.
But then, true love, understanding and respect have been their tools in resolving and overcoming their struggles in life. Communication has been helpful for them to continuously win small battles in life, one step at a time to win the challenges in life.
Today, they shared us their story for us to learn from mistakes that they may have made. For us not to repeat the mistakes they were into. They serve as our guide, to clear our path so that ours may not as bumpy as they had.
The end
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