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Friday, April 17, 2009
It’s been five month since I was with my wife and a year since I was with my children. Our children are now with my wife in Singapore spending their summer vacation and will be back to school again in June.
I’ve been through rough times and have fallen out from my wife and my kids, with each of their own issues. And during my solitude in the quietness of my room, I took a step back and have a different perspective of the situation. In any case, the fact remains that I miss my family, their presence, their showing of affections, their voices first hand and their laughters.
My issues with my wife are more of a “family matters”. As much as we don’t want to say or act anything that is hurtful, we end up doing so. Though we know that such were just said at the heat of the moment, we patch up thing in a day or two. Our misunderstandings were due to stress in managing our “family matters”.
Our children issues are more disappointing and uninspiring.
Our son has failed 5 out of his 7 subjects in his studies in the university. What more can I say. And still he has the nerve to say “It’s good that I did not fail 7 subjects”. So, we should be thankful that he passed 2 out of 7 subjects? If he is just trying to be smart I don’t buy it. I was furiously mad at him when he said that to me. The good thing was that we were on “chatting” when he said that, otherwise I would have been shouting on top of my lungs.
After I have calmed down about my son's issues, I thought may be he was not trying to be smart afterall but he was looking at his situation in a positive way. Just like when you are looking at a half-filled glass of water. It’s either you look at it as half-filled or half-empty.
Our son not only failed his subject but most unfortunately, he failed us. Me and my wife who have taken all the sacrifices, enduring the heavy hearts being away from them, missing their childhood and not being around to watch them grow up, just to give them a brighter future. All these sacrifices had gone to the drain.
Our son has failed to be the role model of his generation. Our son is the eldest grandchild from both sides, paternally and maternally. He should have taken this fact as a big responsibility. Maybe he can still be the role model, but I hate to say, for the wrong reason.
Our eldest daughter has the brain, but she cheats, she lies but not steal. She has the brain but she is not using it. She chooses the wrong company, she copies the wrong image among youths, and she has all the wrong priorities.
She lies. How many times she was caught lying? I lost count. She’ll say that she is with her friend A doing their project so and so. But if you call her friend, she is not there.
She cheats. She never keeps her promise. Even just as an act of respect to us. She disregarded the promises she made.
But if anyone asks me, my son’s and daughter’s predicament had something to do with their forsaking of their church duties. They were choir members, since they’ve gone cold with their primary duty to attend worship services, their membership with the choir was compromised. Since then, they run into troubles. They are both intelligent, but they can’t perform in their studies.
If only they know their priorities, they would not be in these undesirable circumstances.
I’ve been through rough times and have fallen out from my wife and my kids, with each of their own issues. And during my solitude in the quietness of my room, I took a step back and have a different perspective of the situation. In any case, the fact remains that I miss my family, their presence, their showing of affections, their voices first hand and their laughters.
My issues with my wife are more of a “family matters”. As much as we don’t want to say or act anything that is hurtful, we end up doing so. Though we know that such were just said at the heat of the moment, we patch up thing in a day or two. Our misunderstandings were due to stress in managing our “family matters”.
Our children issues are more disappointing and uninspiring.
Our son has failed 5 out of his 7 subjects in his studies in the university. What more can I say. And still he has the nerve to say “It’s good that I did not fail 7 subjects”. So, we should be thankful that he passed 2 out of 7 subjects? If he is just trying to be smart I don’t buy it. I was furiously mad at him when he said that to me. The good thing was that we were on “chatting” when he said that, otherwise I would have been shouting on top of my lungs.
After I have calmed down about my son's issues, I thought may be he was not trying to be smart afterall but he was looking at his situation in a positive way. Just like when you are looking at a half-filled glass of water. It’s either you look at it as half-filled or half-empty.
Our son not only failed his subject but most unfortunately, he failed us. Me and my wife who have taken all the sacrifices, enduring the heavy hearts being away from them, missing their childhood and not being around to watch them grow up, just to give them a brighter future. All these sacrifices had gone to the drain.
Our son has failed to be the role model of his generation. Our son is the eldest grandchild from both sides, paternally and maternally. He should have taken this fact as a big responsibility. Maybe he can still be the role model, but I hate to say, for the wrong reason.
Our eldest daughter has the brain, but she cheats, she lies but not steal. She has the brain but she is not using it. She chooses the wrong company, she copies the wrong image among youths, and she has all the wrong priorities.
She lies. How many times she was caught lying? I lost count. She’ll say that she is with her friend A doing their project so and so. But if you call her friend, she is not there.
She cheats. She never keeps her promise. Even just as an act of respect to us. She disregarded the promises she made.
But if anyone asks me, my son’s and daughter’s predicament had something to do with their forsaking of their church duties. They were choir members, since they’ve gone cold with their primary duty to attend worship services, their membership with the choir was compromised. Since then, they run into troubles. They are both intelligent, but they can’t perform in their studies.
If only they know their priorities, they would not be in these undesirable circumstances.
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